Love or Religion?

OU wrote:

Sounds like your lady friends needs to do some soul searching and figure out what she thinks is right and what she thinks is wrong. Can't sit on the fence on this, it won't work. But not only that she needs to determine how far she will go to do what she feels is right. Good luck with your situation, but based on the information given, she has a long ways to go.

Thanks man. Even after we broke up 2 days ago she kept telling me that she loves me and misses me terribly. I said to her about 2 hours ago that I'm gonna stop communicating with her and give her space to figure out what she wants. Thanks for the advice.

freakzilla wrote:

OU wrote:

Sounds like your lady friends needs to do some soul searching and figure out what she thinks is right and what she thinks is wrong. Can't sit on the fence on this, it won't work. But not only that she needs to determine how far she will go to do what she feels is right. Good luck with your situation, but based on the information given, she has a long ways to go.

Thanks man. Even after we broke up 2 days ago she kept telling me that she loves me and misses me terribly. I said to her about 2 hours ago that I'm gonna stop communicating with her and give her space to figure out what she wants. Thanks for the advice.

No problem, hope it all works out for you.

OU wrote:

freakzilla wrote:

OU wrote:

Sounds like your lady friends needs to do some soul searching and figure out what she thinks is right and what she thinks is wrong. Can't sit on the fence on this, it won't work. But not only that she needs to determine how far she will go to do what she feels is right. Good luck with your situation, but based on the information given, she has a long ways to go.

Thanks man. Even after we broke up 2 days ago she kept telling me that she loves me and misses me terribly. I said to her about 2 hours ago that I'm gonna stop communicating with her and give her space to figure out what she wants. Thanks for the advice.

No problem, hope it all works out for you.

Thanks, I really appreciate it. She's been really good for me. Haven't you seen a change in me this year compared to last

Well its arleady cut and dry changes to her life will be made, her unborn children will not be able to choose their religion. I would suppose thats a pretty big concern for a highly religious person

I am an agnostic so love.

I don't really care though people are free to believe and follow which ever faith gives them solitude.

freakzilla wrote:

GDPofDRC wrote:

Good question.

Love conquers all.

No it doesn't. Just broke up with my GF because she was too scared to take the risk of losing her family. I'm Muslim and she's Italian Catholic but her parents said they will never accept me and that if she stays with me they will disown her.

I am sorry to hear that Freak, stay strong brother.

religion has no play in my life. ive gone done split my ways with it

Ali wrote:

freakzilla wrote:

GDPofDRC wrote:

Good question.

Love conquers all.

No it doesn't. Just broke up with my GF because she was too scared to take the risk of losing her family. I'm Muslim and she's Italian Catholic but her parents said they will never accept me and that if she stays with me they will disown her.

I am sorry to hear that Freak, stay strong brother.

Thanks mate, I appreciate it.

Serious question here, Freak. Hypothetical if you will. Had none of this with her parents come to a head or whatever and she had their blessing what style wedding would it have been? I don't know much about how wedding ceremonies are performed in islam(if it differs from the catholic style wedding at all, and if so how), but would there be a split type scenario, two weddings or just one wedding and if only one what kind?

I said I'd be willing to get married in a church as long as the bible had nothing to do with it and it was a marriage celebrant not a priest doing it.

Cu Bu wrote:

Well its arleady cut and dry changes to her life will be made, her unborn children will not be able to choose their religion. I would suppose thats a pretty big concern for a highly religious person

freakzilla"I said I'd be willing to get married in a church as long as the bible had nothing to do with it and it was a marriage celebrant not a priest doing it. "

looks like you got yourself a mexican standof

Cu Bu wrote:

Cu Bu wrote:

Well its arleady cut and dry changes to her life will be made, her unborn children will not be able to choose their religion. I would suppose thats a pretty big concern for a highly religious person

freakzilla"I said I'd be willing to get married in a church as long as the bible had nothing to do with it and it was a marriage celebrant not a priest doing it. "

looks like you got yourself a mexican standof

awe hell no!!!

her parents shouldn't dictate her life, they will learn that the hard way.

Yeah it seems pretty unfair that you want her to compromise the religion she's grown up with her whole life for you, yet you won't do the same for her? I'm sure you don't want to hear it but you're placing her in just as much of a "between a rock and a hard place" position as her parents are here. Having a wedding in a christian church without a priest and bible is like having a big screen tv with no cable. Shit just doesn't work.

Well I would be sacrificing also. That's not how Muslims get married either.

freakzilla wrote:

Well I would be sacrificing also. That's not how Muslims get married either.

It isn't against Muslim beliefs to marry a non Muslim?

freakzilla wrote:

Well I would be sacrificing also. That's not how Muslims get married either.

How is it a sacrifice when the implication is that she can choose the place but the ceremony will be according to your religion? I'm just saying it's kind of unfair to her that the choice you've given her is that under no circumstances can a priest or bible be involved even if it's held in a church. You're asking her to basically forsake her religion in favor of allowing you to adhere to yours. It's like going half on a video game with a friend and telling them that they can keep it at their house but they can't play it there without you.

Maybe she isn't the only one who needs to do some soul searching here on love being more important than religion.

killerofchicken wrote:

Cu Bu wrote:

Cu Bu wrote:

Well its arleady cut and dry changes to her life will be made, her unborn children will not be able to choose their religion. I would suppose thats a pretty big concern for a highly religious person

freakzilla"I said I'd be willing to get married in a church as long as the bible had nothing to do with it and it was a marriage celebrant not a priest doing it. "

looks like you got yourself a mexican standof

awe hell no!!!

Ludo wrote:

freakzilla wrote:

Well I would be sacrificing also. That's not how Muslims get married either.

How is it a sacrifice when the implication is that she can choose the place but the ceremony will be according to your religion? I'm just saying it's kind of unfair to her that the choice you've given her is that under no circumstances can a priest or bible be involved even if it's held in a church. You're asking her to basically forsake her religion in favor of allowing you to adhere to yours. It's like going half on a video game with a friend and telling them that they can keep it at their house but they can't play it there without you.

Maybe she isn't the only one who needs to do some soul searching here on love being more important than religion.

You seriously have just become a troll. That isn't how Muslims get married. I'm not going to bother responding to another of your messages ever.

freakzilla wrote:

Ludo wrote:

freakzilla wrote:

Well I would be sacrificing also. That's not how Muslims get married either.

How is it a sacrifice when the implication is that she can choose the place but the ceremony will be according to your religion? I'm just saying it's kind of unfair to her that the choice you've given her is that under no circumstances can a priest or bible be involved even if it's held in a church. You're asking her to basically forsake her religion in favor of allowing you to adhere to yours. It's like going half on a video game with a friend and telling them that they can keep it at their house but they can't play it there without you.

Maybe she isn't the only one who needs to do some soul searching here on love being more important than religion.

You seriously have just become a troll. That isn't how Muslims get married. I'm not going to bother responding to another of your messages ever.

Try to look at it as playing devil's advocate. Giving a hard stance and saying the things you don't want to hear. Ultimately it's your choice on what advice you take, it's your life.

freakzilla wrote:

Ludo wrote:

freakzilla wrote:

Well I would be sacrificing also. That's not how Muslims get married either.

How is it a sacrifice when the implication is that she can choose the place but the ceremony will be according to your religion? I'm just saying it's kind of unfair to her that the choice you've given her is that under no circumstances can a priest or bible be involved even if it's held in a church. You're asking her to basically forsake her religion in favor of allowing you to adhere to yours. It's like going half on a video game with a friend and telling them that they can keep it at their house but they can't play it there without you.

Maybe she isn't the only one who needs to do some soul searching here on love being more important than religion.

You seriously have just become a troll. That isn't how Muslims get married. I'm not going to bother responding to another of your messages ever.

You already barely respond to direct questions I ask you anyway. I was being serious and trying to give you another perspective to look at. But if you want to come off like I just "hiel hitler"d in front of holocaust survivors then that's cool too. Sometimes the truth hurts, though. Pro tip: if you don't want comments providing another point of view to consider then don't post personal things in open forums.

Well we're back together. We just got to figure out how to tell her parents now.

Seeing as the real advice got an angry response:

Try wrapping a note around a brick and throwing it through the window, that always gets the point across.

freakzilla wrote:

Well we're back together. We just got to figure out how to tell her parents now.

Make up sex !!!